There are times in everyone’s life when you lose faith in yourself. It could be due to many obvious or unexplainable reasons like having grown up in a dysfunctional family, childhood abuse etc. Often the onus of pleasing everyone lies on you and you think if you are compliant and accommodating, everyone would be happy and things would be easier for everyone without any hassle. But you never understand that this approach would emotionally abandon you. So, get up with a thought that you cannot please all! First, make yourself happy and confident then only you can pass this on to others! How to develop self-esteem? Here are some of the most effective tricks that are time tested and proven to be powerful you too can try it out!
How to Combat Low Self-Esteem
Remember the Loss Due to Low Self-esteem
It’s time to recollect those things that had enticed you a lot but due to shyness or low confidence level you lost and could not dare to grab. Look down the series of failure you faced due to your submissive approach. It could be a lucrative job, friends, love in life, relationship, success, respect etc. This will help you know your loss and remind that you deserved it all but due to the low confidence, you lost it all.
Self-recognition is necessary. You are special and armed with the strength to achieve and do anything. It’s just your low self-esteem and hesitation that drags you back. You’re gifted with loads of potential to do anything, it a matter of realizing your trust on yourself. Remember, we are the best creation of Almighty and have come to this earth for some reason. There is nothing in this world which you can’t do. Just throw out your shyness and identify your potential. You can see your potential peeping out of your shyness.
Take Your Own Decision Boldly
Don’t expect any miracle, create it yourself. Nobody will come to show you the right way. It’s rare that you will get a guru and teacher like Chanakya. Create your own roadmap and start progressing on it. Just ensure you are on the right way by getting expert suggestions and researching on the domain you have set out. Craft your own destiny, taking bold decisions. Take the first step. Do one thing each day! Every big success starts with a small step. Don’t wait for magic, create magic.
Yes, this is what you must do and for this, you need to develop a thick skin. There are people who may not admire a new you beaming ear to ear with confidence. They would try to demolish your confidence with teasing comments. Simply avoid them. You cannot be praised by everyone. Understand this and accept it. Avoiding criticism and flashing a smile to them is the best answer. So avoid shame an anger and face the criticism with courage and smile.
Love Move Mountains! Build great relations that you can trust and fall back on. It works as a cushion in the hours of crisis. Be in the company of people whom you trust and love and let them know you are there. It will be soothing and help you face the hardships of life. Win people by helping them. Give them what you want from them. It will surely get back to you one day. Suddenly you will discover that they have started liking your company and searching for you, this is also a way to be in their company.
Fears are Illusions
Having low self-esteem would create a whole lot of fears in your life. You would be afraid of taking any initiative either due to lack of confidence of knowledge of fear of how people would react. All your fears are just your own brain child. There is nothing that is going to hold you back. It’s just fear and low confidence that creates a protective circle around you holding you back from taking any bold decision. This is the result of not believing your thoughts. All your fears are the repercussion of your lack of confidence that keeps warning you of imminent danger. Just remember most of your fears relate to some part event or tragic incident. It could also be life-threatening. It’s time to use your logical brain to remind yourself that you aren’t going to die. But you have to fight back to gain your confidence and brave the adverse situations of your life with a smile on your face. This is only possible with self-confidence and perseverance. It can overcome fear.
Self-love is the Key to Healthy Relationships
If you are occupied by low confidence where your relationship would breathe? It would suffocate! Your low confidence and shyness would push others away from you, which will demolish your dream of being liked and loved by all. People feel confident and happy in the company of people who are full of confidence and prove to be a helping hand. You need to practice self-love by honoring your own needs and priorities, and by being compassionate and forgiving of yourself.
Life is full of happiness and love! You simply have to identify and put efforts to develop your confidence to deserve it. Be a deserving person, all your desires would come seeking you. Shun away all your fear from your mind practicing self-confidence techniques that include self-help, hypothesis, NLP programs, meditation etc. This will not only make you feel blessed but will also help you loved by everyone!